can i hold out from love?

I think as much as I don't want a relationship, its really hard not to be with the person I care about.I watched Alfie today, which I do very rarely but it made me think. That I deserve happiness. I deserve to be with the person I love and who loves me. Don't we owe that to ourselves. I wish I could say 'let's be together and deal with our bullshit' but that isn't something that works. Dealing with our bullshit has to be done before we can really make something work. Sure, I'm in a position where I have the emotional control to fuck, but that's just not something I want anymore. I can hold out from sex, can I hold out from love?